Friday, January 19, 2007

Sacred Marriage

Right now I know of several marriages ending in divorce. And do you know what? Most of these marriages are Christian marriages made up of Christian people who love God, but who have decided that they no longer love their spouse. But does real love really end? The Bible defines love as a CHOICE. If it were based on feelings alone, how could God ever require us to love our enemies? But in Matthew 5:44 that is exactly what Jesus commands us to do. How much more so are we required to love someone we have committed our life to before God? I am reading a very interesting book right now called Sacred Marriage. The author of this book argues that marriage is about more than our happiness... it is a call to holiness and a test of our faithfulness to God. God didn't design marriage for our selfish gain; he created it to be a symbol of His perfect faithfulness to us - with the beautiful image of the church as the bride of Christ. Thank GOD that His love isn't based on our perfection, our weight, our appearances, or our ability to keep Him happy. It is a sacred covenant... a permanent relationship between us and God. When we enter into marriage as sinful humans we have big shoes to fill. But just because we are sinful and selfish doesn't mean we are excused from God's holy expectations and purpose for our life. Maybe our spouse isn't perfect... maybe he/she doesn't make us happy anymore, but does that mean we can just walk away from a promise we've made to him/her? ...From a promise we've made to God??? I think we need to stop expecting marriage to make us happy and start appreciating its ability to make us holy. - HB

"By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you'll become happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher." -Socrates